Cain's Troubles Give Warning to the Rest of Us

On this blog, I have chosen to stay away from politics. If you know me personally, you realize how difficult that is for me. Yet I have been successful up until now. I post a political story because this one goes to the heart of something about which I care deeply: marriage and family.

According to this latest twist of an ongoing story, Mr. Cain has admitted to having a friendship with a woman that his wife knew nothing about until she publicly revealed what she said was a thirteen year affair with Cain. Incidentally, the Bible uses the more stark term "adultery." Whether he committed adultery with her, one thing is clear; having a secret relationship with someone of the opposite sex will only lead to trouble. Trust is violated and temptation is a real threat.

However, the story gets more problematic for Cain and probably explains the reassessment of his campaign. He revealed in the interview to the New Hampshire Union leader that he has repeatedly given this woman money for monthly bills.

See: http://www.unionleader.com/article/20111201/NEWS0605/111209989

and/or

http://www.c-span.org/Campaign2012/Herman-Cain-Interview-with-NH-Newspaper/10737425947-1/

This is behavior consistent with an affair yet if it weren't an affair, the idea of giving money that belongs to Gloria and Herman Cain (a one flesh union) to an admittedly secret friend without her knowledge leaves Gloria to question the nature of this relationship. Mr. Cain's campaign MAY be in trouble but his marriage most definitely IS in trouble. We will know more once he makes that trip to Atlanta on Friday.

In the age of Facebook, cell phones and so much technology, please make sure your relationships with those of the opposite sex are known to your spouse. If there is anyone who gets your spouse's radar up, then you need to consider strongly ending that relationship unless a chat with your spouse and open activities allay concerns.

Hedges: Loving Your Marriage Enough to Protect is a great resource to help you protect your marriage from adultery. http://www.amazon.com/Loving-Your-Marriage-Enough-Protect/dp/080244086X/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1322782941&sr=8-2

Remember that often enough, an affair (i.e. adultery) is a calculated behavior over time, one compromise or allowance followed by another and then another. That being the case, you are in control of stopping the descent into adultery.

Casting Crowns' "Slow Fade" href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QASREBVDsLk&ob=av2e">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QASREBVDsLk&ob=av2e

If you are currently involved in an adulterous relationship or one you know to be inappropriate, waste no more time, get out. And get ahead of the story. Your jilted lover may very well reveal all. Beat him or her to it, after all, that is what repentance is. Check out this promise: "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" 1 John 1:9 (NKJV). The road back will not be easy but it will be worthwhile. See your pastor together for further help as needed.

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