Attention People Pleasers: You Can't Really Avoid Saying "No" and Here's Why

Thought:  Just because you can doesn't mean you must.

In other words, your ability to do what someone asks of you doesn't mean that you must do it.  Frequently, especially during the busy Christmas season, these requests come at the most inconvenient of times.  Yet, how many of you (or someone you dearly love) do it anyway?

Here's a difficult truth:  When you can't say "No" to others you indirectly say, "No" to . . . 

Yourself

You say "No" to a full night's sleep
You say "No" to any discretionary time you may have had

Your Immediate Family

Who do you think, besides yourself, gets the short end of the stick when you rob your margin by saying "Yes" to those to whom you should say "No"?

Challenge:

This Christmas say "No" to someone to whom you could say "Yes."

This is especially true for those of you who have a Christmas season (like every other Christmas season for as long as you can remember), full of doing for others.  Come on, you can do it!

One of two things will happen if you do this:

1) the person who asks you will find someone else to help (psst, over here . . . you aren't the only one who can do this)

2) they will do it for themselves and perhaps grow thereby.

You don't have the time

Admit it.  Let them deal with it and move on.

Your family and perhaps you, when you're done with your false guilt, will thank you.

Merry Christmas to you and your family.  Taking to heart what I just told you may be the best Christmas present you give to them and receive for yourself.